February 17, 2020
Last week, in our high school chapel and, in honor of Valentine’s Day, our chaplain, Mr. Hernandez, interviewed Sam and Kristine Miro, both graduates of FCS who dated during high school and are married with two children now attending FCS. In the interview thy spoke plainly about their relationship while in high school and college, and how they placed God first in that relationship. They emphasized to our students how the decisions that they made while in high school about their relationship, has had a permanent impact on their married life. Their message was one this generation needs to hear. We live in a society that is predicated on the lack of permanency and commitment. Many in our society live for the moment, not for the future, in almost every aspect of their lives. More and more, it seems that this culture is only concerned with the present, and with getting all it wants, and getting it right now. As a result of this lifestyle, American marriages are failing at an unprecedented rate. More and more young people choose to experiment with living together for a trial period, because they are afraid of the commitment of marriage. Sam and Kristine are a wonderful example of two young people who made decisions about love and commitment while in high school, and how God has blessed them because of those decisions.
The world our students are growing up in today scoffs at the idea of commitment in marriage and remaining pure until marriage. The Bible describes this time in II Timothy 3:1-5. “But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with them.” Paul’s list contains several characteristics of the person who lacks commitment to anything outside of themselves. He goes on to point out that people cannot continue this pattern of life forever, it will catch up with them. He then concludes in II Timothy 3:15-17, “…and how from infancy you have known the holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.” It is in God’s Word that we can find the real truth about love and commitment, as opposed to a life built around self-indulgence, experimentation, and gratification. It is in God’s Word that we find passages like Ephesians 5:31-32, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery-but I am talking about Christ and the church.” Commitment seemingly is not a virtue honored in our society, or with the rising generation, yet commitment holds such a high place in God’s sight that he compares the commitment of love and marriage to the commitment between us and God. The example of Christ and the church is a picture of Jesus, who was willing to die on the cross for his bride, the church. Without this commitment we would be hopelessly lost. Our commitment to him is because of our love for him and the realization of how much he has done for us. God’s Word is his e-card to his church about his unending love for his bride and the commitment he proved by Jesus’ death on the cross.
Our marriage relationships should mirror this commitment. Our relationships in marriage should be that of mutual submission. According to the Bible, as husbands, we should follow the example of Christ by being the leaders of our homes who are willing to provide love, and even be willing to give our lives for our wife and family. Our wives should be able to respect their husbands and the leadership position God has placed them in, and to offer him a pure and unblemished love. Despite what the world’s ideas say, commitment in marriage is not about power and control. It is about giving yourself up for someone else, just a Christ gave His life for us. Galatians 1:4-5, “Jesus gave his life for our sins, just as God our Father planned, in order to rescue us from this evil world in which we live. All glory to God forever and ever!”
As believers, our testimony in the community should model our commitment to God, because of his unspeakable gift of salvation and eternal life. As individuals it should be our desire, by God’s grace, to also influence our world by our commitment to our spouse and family. We will be blessed, individually and as the body of believers if we demonstrate our understanding of Biblical commitment. Most importantly, we will bless others who are drawn to Jesus because of the commitment of our faithful love to God and to our family. I am thankful for Sam and Kristine’s testimony to our students which models true biblical love and commitment.